Acceptance helps us respond to negative and unpleasant experiences in ways that don’t make things worse, and prevent vicious cycles and downward spirals. Acceptance can be a difficult concept to grasp. In the videos below I do my best to explain the nature of acceptance in the context of mindfulness and psychotherapy, but it’s probably the topic that causes the most confusion in my comments.
I’m not sure how to try to clarify the difference between acceptance and resignation beyond what’s in these videos. I think part of the confusion is that there are various ways to define acceptance, and in some senses acceptance is very similar to resignation. But unlike resignation, in psychotherapy, acceptance is an acknowledgement and recognition of the current state of affairs, but without giving up.
Perhaps the most well-known use of this type of acceptance is the Serenity Prayer from Alcoholics Anonymous:
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
and Wisdom to know the difference.
The video below elaborates on the nature of acceptance.
Allowing and Letting Be
If you have any questions or comments, please leave them on the YouTube video page.